I once saw a cartoon where a giant egg was lying in a messy bed, smoking a cigarette with a big grin on his face, obviously feeling very satisfied. A big chicken sat on the edge of the bed, crossly declaring, “Well, I guess we answered THAT question!” (“Which came first – the chicken or the egg?”)
Most women can sympathize with that chicken at least a little bit. It’s downright unfair how FAST men can reach sexual climax, and how LONG it can take women to just get warmed up!
But we’ve discovered two secrets to making sure we both cross the finish line with smiles on our faces…
- * If we have a limited amount of time or energy, priority number one is for me to have an orgasm first, then he gets to follow suit. Why this “Ladies First” approach? Because once men ejaculate, they’re usually spent, at least for a while… which leads me to our second secret…
- * Sometimes sex can feel SO intensely pleasurable for a man that he can’t help but cross the finish line long before his partner. But that doesn’t mean the fun has to be over. Relax with him for a while, perhaps lying in his arms or with your head on his chest. Then after a brief cat-nap which allows him a “refractory period,” begin gently stroking his chest… belly… thighs… and you’ll begin to get a rise out of him once again!
We affectionately refer to this second strategy as “Round 2 Sex,” and we’ve found it can be incredibly fulfilling because the goal isn’t to “hurry” and cross a finish line, but rather to luxuriously bask in one another’s presence. We can slow down and focus on the sensations we’re experiencing.
This “Round 2” time isn’t as much about intensity (which is nice!), but rather about intimacy (which is even better!)
So don’t pack up your toys and go home after one round of sex! If you have time and energy, such as on a lazy Saturday morning, stick around and play a while longer!
Wishing you many wonderful rounds of sexual intimacy,
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