Hot Tips For Sexually Confident Wives #33

Learn The Art of Silent Seduction

I was recently asked, “How can I get my husband interested in sex after a long, hard day at work? It seems like he has absolutely no desire to even talk to me, let alone have sex!”

As I heard this question, it dawned on me that women almost ALWAYS want to be romanced verbally before getting sexual with their husbands. Why does it always have to go in that order? Why does he have to strain his brain to think of all kinds of exciting things to say before we can get our own motor running? He’s been straining his brain all day to think of things to say in order to make a living for his family, and sometimes he simply doesn’t have a whole lot of words left by the time he gets home. It’s not that he’s romantically-challenged, or doesn’t love you, or doesn’t want to have sex with you. Men simply aren’t wired to be nearly as verbal as women are! Although I love to be swept off my feet with sweet nothings whispered into my ear, it doesn’t have to work that way EVERY time.

So ladies, let’s try this radical approach on occasion. Next time your husband walks in exhausted from work and you’re wanting to connect for some intimate time together, welcome him at the door with a kiss and then place one finger over his lips. Tell him, “Ssssh! You’re not allowed to speak at all for the next 30 minutes!”

Then lovingly demonstrate the Art of Silent Seduction! Lead him into the master bedroom, help him get out of his work clothes, and get out of yours as well…

I’m willing to bet that he’ll manage to find a few words to speak to you after that – beginning with, “What the *#*#*#* has gotten into you?!” To which you can respond, “Hey, ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS, right? Just wanted to show you that I love you!”


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Excerpted from The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your HusbandMind*Body*Heart*Spirit by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2008.  All Rights Reserved. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval.