Before any author can submit a proposal for a book to a publisher, they have to do their homework. They have to find out what else has been written on their particular topic, and what makes their own book distinctly different than anything else on bookstore shelves. Thoughts need to be original and fulfill a need in the world that no other book seems to be addressing.

And that is how I came across a particular book in a Barnes & Noble store one day. I won’t disclose the title, as I don’t want to paint anyone else’s book in a negative light (and I’m certainly judging this book by its cover!). But my blood boiled slightly as I read the following words from the inside book jacket:

“…most importantly, this book lets you in on the secrets learned by the wildest, least scrupulous, and most lascivious women around: otherwise known as ‘bad girls.’ These are the girls that have a little extra wiggle, the ones that flirt so shamelessly it’s as if they’re begging to be leered at and whistled to by every guy they come into contact with. These women know things, important things, like what to say, how to move, how to look, and how to think, in situations where being naughty is absolutely necessary.”

I simply don’t agree with the insinuation that to be good in bed, you must act like a “bad girl,” and to be sexual means that you must behave “naughtily.” This myth has fed the great divide between women who feel confident sexually, and women who don’t. So I want to remind you — sex was GOD’s creation, and He gave it to Adam and Eve before the fall of mankind! There’s absolutely nothing bad or sinful about great sex within marriage!

Hopefully, you’ve discovered by now that my approach with The Sexually Confident Wife is that you DON’T have to act like someone you are not. You CAN hold on to your holy scruples and your hot sex life at the same time.

Good girls CAN be good in bed — really good! So go grab that man of yours and show him just how good a good girl can be!