Hot Tips For Sexually Confident Wives #17

Invest A Few Moments In Your Marriage Each Day. I’ve gone through Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University video course, and it’s been absolutely life-changing on many different levels. I’ve had major revelations of how important it is to invest in the future so that we don’t wind up “eating Alpo in our old age” as Dave so cleverly puts it.

Some of us put financial investing on the back burner over the past few years, and now that the economy is strained, we regret it BIG-time. We wish we’d been investing heavily rather than spending carelessly. But of course, it’s never too late to get on the right track. The old saying is true: “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is today.”

I believe it’s equally important to invest EMOTIONALLY in our future. Sometimes we get lax and assume that our spouse’s flame will always burn brightly for us, and vice-versa. But I talk to women every week who are experiencing major regrets for not making more emotional investments in their marriage earlier-on. Sometimes there’s an extramarital affair involved… or an internet romance… or a pornography addiction… or some sort of emotional entanglement. In just about every case, there’s been an “empty cup” feeling. One (or both) of them feel completely devoid of the passion that once characterized their relationship. It’s one of the saddest things in the world – and none of us are exempt!

How does a cup get so empty? Simple. Because we stop pouring into it. But it’s not too late to start pouring into each other once again. If you take a few minutes each day to invest in your marriage, you’ll reap a lifetime of emotional interest!


Here’s a few ideas to spark your creativity:

  • Send a Sexy Text Message. A simple phrase like “you’re so hot” or “light my fire” or “wish you were here… naked” is more than enough to make your husband eagerly anticipate coming home from work!
  • Indulge in a 60-second kiss at least 2-3 times a week. Too often, our kisses become routine “hello” or “goodbye” kisses, which are about as exciting as kissing the dog or the back of our hand. Kissing your spouse should get engines revving and juices flowing, at least on occasion! Even if you don’t have time for much more than that, it will build anticipation for when you do!
  • Leave a Lipstick Note. Put on lipstick and leave a “kiss” on his bathroom mirror or on a sticky note in his briefcase.

Little things go a long way to fill someone’s cup, so invest a few moments in your marriage each day and watch the emotional interest overflow!

Wishing you a rich future together,


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by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2008.  All Rights Reserved. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval.