Hot Tips For Sexually Confident Wives- #39

One of the biggest hindrances to frequent sexual encounters is settling too deeply into a routine. Even if something works great, it can lose its luster after a while.

When that happens, shake things up a bit with something new! Here are a few ideas:

Rather than dinner first, then sex at the end of a date, try reversing the order. Tell him you need a little loving before you go out for the evening, and then you can both bask in the afterglow all evening long instead of falling fast asleep afterward.

Incorporate some sort of new novelty that will appeal to his senses – perhaps a hot oil back massage beforehand… or light a vanilla-scented candle… or spray your sheets & pillowcases with lavender spray (enhances relaxation!)… or introduce a cup of Cool Whip into the mix for some sweet fun!

Wear some unusual piece of lingerie – something of a different color, or style than what you typically wear. If you’ve historically been a slinky-satin-gown-type-of-gal, try a short little teddy instead, or lacy bra & panties with some thigh-high stockings. Or if your lingerie collection already runs the full gamut, surprise him by slipping on one of his dress shirts… and nothing else! It will drive him wild to see your feminine physique sporting his masculine button-up (slightly unbuttoned!).

You get the idea. When your fun romps become routine, and routine becomes a rut, it’s time to get creative and keep him guessing what’s coming next!

Wishing you many new adventures,


Excerpted from The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your Husband Mind*Body*Heart*Spirit by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2008.  All Rights Reserved. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval.