Hot Tips For Sexually Confident Wives #60


As promised in the last Hot Tips, we’re examining what it means to be a Sexually Confident Wife, which I’ve defined as:

Letting go of three things: guilt, shame, and inhibition…

And embracing three things: passion, purpose, and pleasure

So for this Hot Tip we’ll focus on letting go of INHIBITIONS…

Everything in the world has a purpose, and a pattern which it naturally and instinctively follows in order to fulfill its purpose. If we examine the pattern that human beings naturally and instinctively follow, you’ll notice that we have an undeniable tendency to gravitate over and over again toward four things: eating, drinking, sleeping, and sex.

Researchers have identified these as the four “pleasure centers” of the brain – pleasure centers which constantly cry out for satisfaction. This is how humans are wired. Those four pleasure centers are where we live, or at least, where we should be living.

When we grow hungry, we don’t feel any shame about eating, right? No one casts a stone at us when we become thirsty. We haven’t sinned when we fall asleep at the end of a long day. There’s absolutely no shame in experiencing hunger, thirst, or exhaustion.

So why should human beings feel shame when our sexual appetites cry out to be fed? Why do we (sometimes subconsciously) fear displeasing the God we worship when we experience a desire for sex? Isn’t that how humans are designed by God? Aren’t we just following the pattern? Fulfilling our purpose? Yes, we are.

And to try to deny that purpose or reinvent that pattern because of the social taboos we’ve allowed to brainwash our thinking about our sexuality is nothing short of heresy.

Wishing you inhibition-free living,


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Excerpted from The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your Husband Mind*Body*Heart*Spirit by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2008.  All Rights Reserved. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval.