We’re finally home from our one-month speaking tour in the Land Down Under, and the past 48 hours have been a whirlwind of unpacking suitcases, laundry, getting kids in school, returning phone calls and emails, opening a month’s worth of mail, and trying to get back in THIS time zone. (I’m writing this at 4 a.m., which means I haven’t been successful on this last item.)
I’m finding it interesting that I’ve just proven one of the theories I present in The Sexually Confident Wife — that the less you have sex, the less you want to have sex & the more you have sex, the more you want it. As you can imagine, over the past 4-5 weeks with this huge family trip, our opportunties for lengthy passionate sexual encounters have been rare. Sometimes it was because we were so busy getting ducks in a row for the next day’s speaking engagement. Sometimes it was because we were traveling in a small RV with two children less than three feet from our bed. Sometimes it was because we were simply exhausted from the day’s activities. I whispered in my husband’s ear on the plane, “I can’t wait to get you home and in bed!”
However, once we finally walked in the door, my “desire radar” read absolutely zero. Zip. Zilch. Nada. I couldn’t understand it (and neither could he). Then I remembered that theory and realized — rather than allowing myself to “hit the wall,” I needed to intentionally “scale the wall” instead. And yep, the theory proves true. Once we make an intentional effort to scale that wall of personal resistance, we indeed find EUPHORIA on the other side!
Do you find this to be true for you as well? If so, give us some pointers on how you get back on the right track in your sexual relationship!
Now I hear my husband moving around upstairs. Obviously his body clock hasn’t adjusted yet either. I’m going to go climb that wall again!