While avoiding unhealthy emotional connections and relationships is important, it’s not enough to guarantee success in keeping our hearts guarded against compromise. The secret to ultimate emotional satisfaction is to pursue a mad, passionate love relationship with the One who made our hearts, the One who purifies our hearts, and the One who strengthens our […]
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 7
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 7
…continued MYTH 6 There’s no one who would really understand my struggle. I believe that this myth exists because women don’t usually discuss their sex lives with other women, perhaps because they fear judgment. Unfortunately, these fears are often confirmed as legitimate very early in childhood when you trust a grade-school friend with a secret […]
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 6
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 6
…continued MYTH 5 Because I feel so sexually tempted, I must already be guilty, so why bother resisting? Satan’s favorite strategy to use to convince women to cross the line between temptation and sin is false guilt. If sexual integrity is a battle you are entrenched in, you’ve probably had some of these thoughts […]
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 5
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 5
…continued MYTH 4 Thinking about what kind of man I’d like to have if my husband were to die is not a big deal, as long as I am not plotting how to carry that out! “I wonder if he’ll die first so I can have some chance at a happier future.” I’m amazed […]
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 4
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 4
…continued MYTH 3 It doesn’t hurt anyone if I fantasize about someone other than my husband when we make love. Just as wives have the right to be offended by our husbands’ wandering eyes, men have the right to be offended by their wives’ wandering minds. For women, orgasm is probably 10 percent physical […]
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 3
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 3
…continued MYTH 2 I am mature enough to watch any movie or television show, read any book, listen to any music, or surf any web sites without it affecting me in a negative way. Most of us become desensitized to what we see or hear. I’ve demonstrated this through an experiment I conduct when […]
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 2
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 2
…continued In addition to comparing ourselves with other women, some of us compare our husbands to other men. Here are a few examples of statements I’ve heard from women who have obviously fallen into this trap: ~ “I wish my husband aged as well as Sean Connery!” ~ “My husband is far from being […]
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 1
Myths That Intensify Our Struggle- Part 1
In my 25+ years of speaking and lay counseling with women on sexual issues, I’ve uncovered several popular myths that I believe confuse the issue and make sexual integrity far more challenging. Although at first glance you may not believe that you subscribe to a particular misconception, I encourage you to read about it anyway. […]
Not Just a Man’s Battle! Part 2
Not Just a Man’s Battle! Part 2
continued… To help you open your eyes to your own struggle for sexual and emotional integrity, I encourage you to take the following quiz. Are You Engaged in a Battle? * Is having a man in your life or finding a husband something that dominates your thoughts? * If you have a man in […]