In light of my last blog about inviting your husband into your healing process when you’ve been sexually abused, I was incredibly saddened to read this article about a young woman who’s choosing to abuse herself…
Student auctions off virginity for offers of more than £2.5 million
A student who is auctioning her virginity to pay for a masters degree in Family and Marriage therapy has seen bidding hit £2.5million ($3.7m). Natalie Dylan, 22, claims her offer of a one-night stand has persuaded 10,000 men to bid for sex with her. Last September, when her auction came to light, she had received bids up to £162,000 ($243,000) but since then interest in her has rocketed.
The student who has a degree in Women’s Studies insisted she was not demeaning herself. Miss Dylan, from San Diego, California, USA, said she was persuaded to offer herself to the highest bidder after her sister Avia, 23, paid for her own degree after working as a prostitute for three weeks.
She said she had had a lot of attention from a wide range of men, including “weirdos”, “those who get really graphically sexual about what they want to do to me” and “lots of polite requests from rich businessmen”. Miss Dylan said she did not think it was particularly significant to be willing to sell your virginity and insisted that she was happy to undergo medical tests for any doubters.
She said: “I get some men who are obviously looking for a girlfriend but I try and make it clear that this is a one-night-only offer. I know that a lot of people will condemn me for this because it’s so taboo but I really don’t have a problem with that. My study is completely authentic in that I truly am auctioning my virginity but I am not being sold into this. I’m not being taken advantage of in any way. I think me and the person I do it with will both profit greatly from the deal.”
She added: “It’s shocking that men will pay so much for someone’s virginity, which isn’t even prized so highly anymore.”
I’m just curious — what do you think this will do to Natalie’s sexual confidence when she gets married someday? How will it affect her husband’s confidence? What advice would you give her?
Shannon Ethridge says
Dan, I agree that her future isn’t as bright as she may think. While she may get through college debt-free, the burden of guilt, regret, and self-condemnation could prove to be a far greater burden to bear. It’s a good thing she’s studying Marriage & Family Therapy. I think she (and the man she marries) is going to need plenty in the coming years.
Reminds me of the movie “Indecent Proposal.” You just can’t put a price tag on your dignity, and I am praying like crazy that many other young women DON’T follow suit when they hear of this compromising “business plan.”
Christy H. says
college debt is the really hard and may take years and yeas to pay off but respecting yourself Gods plan for sex and marriage is priceless. I had sex with a long time boyfriend who I thought I was going to marry and when it ended after 4 years and I married my husband now of 12 years it was a wound that took a long time to heal and its a permenant scar on my heart.
In light of the numbers responding and the amount offered, I would simply ask her to consider why she is willing to sale for so little something that is obviously worth so much.
This cultural switching of the price tags on what we value is what prompted me to write the article “Victoria’s Secret Disclosed!” http://www.advice-for-lifetime-relationships.com/victoriassecret.html
We really have cheapened the human sexual experience and personally lost the proper placement of value our creator has given our bodies.
Each of our bodies have value, but the value we each place on our body will be determined by how we use it.
I breaks my hear to know that she will have a deep regret after this is over and done with. Sex is only beautiful in marriage. Otherwise, it will cause so much heartache and pain… especially emotionally. But i know God can send an Hosea her way!