Over the past several weeks, I’ve been bombarded with emails from SCW readers bemoaning the fact that their HUSBANDS are the ones who have robbed them of their sexual confidence, through a variety of different ways such as pornography use, negative comments about her weight, too many paranoid questions about her past relationships, unrealistic expectations in the bedroom, etc. etc. Then this week, I received this email from Jerry saying:
I caught just the tail end of your interview today on the radio. I wish my wife would have had your book to read 10 years ago. The intimacy has all but left our 22 yr marriage. I believe that we are both committed to one another so long as we both shall live, but this void in our relationship is very difficult for me to deal with. I have attempted to discuss it with her to no avail. I have offered counseling, suggested discussing with her physician, left books on her desk, begged, and bribed. I had to give up years ago or I was going to burn up with the anger, frustration, etc. If you get around to writing a book for men I will likely read it… From the little I heard, you are doing vital work for healthy marriages. Keep it up.
My heart breaks for Jerry and the thousands of couples in similar situations. It seems like whether a couple has been married many years or just a few months, there’s often so much pain and disappointment in the sex lives of both husbands and wives.
SO… I’m thinking about writing a book to help men understand what a vital part THEY play in building their wives’ sexual confidence. What do you think about:
THE SEXUALLY SAVVY HUSBAND:
Discovering the Secrets to Helping Your Wife Blossom in Bed
Do you think it would be helpful to marriages? Do you think men would read it? Would you buy it for your husband so that he can understand what you REALLY need from him in the relationship in order to be a sexually confident wife? What would you want YOUR husband to understand about you?
Eager to hear your feedback,