I wish I had known what powerful superglue oxytocin is much earlier in life.  It could have helped me connect more intimately with my husband much earlier in our marriage.  It also could have helped me prevent “pair-bonding” so deeply with many other men beforehand.  Little did I know that sexual intimacy is like a clear strip of sticky packing tape, bonding us tightly to another.  When that bond is broken, we lose physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual fragments of our being to that person.  We are stuck with similar fragments of the other person, creating “baggage” we carry around internally until we manage to sever those soul ties (which we’ll talk about in chapter 5).  It becomes harder and harder to stay connected with another human being because we are so accustomed to breaking that bond over and over such that our “tape” is no longer sticky.

But becoming a sexually confident wife is all about restoring the stickiness of your tape.  It’s about learning to connect intimately with your husband, not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well.  It’s about getting on the right track toward genuine intimacy and fulfillment, and rediscovering the true purpose of sexuality – to create a powerful bond between husband and wife that fuels our deepest passions and satisfies our very souls.

Excerpted from The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your Husband Mind*Body*Heart*Spirit by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2008.  All Rights Reserved. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval.