It’s been making headlines in the media a lot lately — special emphasis on how important it is for married couples to have frequent sex. I completely agree, but is it possible to focus so much on quantity that we forget the importance of quality in our sexual relationship?
I’m all about quickies whenever necessary and squeezing in time for squeezing each other in passing.But if that’s all there is – a focus strictly on the physical release and little attention to emotional connection — a woman can begin to feel like nothing more than a sexual rag doll or vending machine. For women to survive off of that is like trying to survive off of a diet of candy bars.They can fill you up, and even satisfy you to an extent, but do they ultimately nourish your soul and your relationship to the fullest extent?Every once in a while we need a good “steak dinner” sexual experience rather than a “candy bar” sexual experience.
Ladies and gentlemen, I want to challenge you – what can you do to set the table for a quality sexual experience?For example, when our kids were younger we had “fish stick and tater tot night” where the kids went to grandmas for fish sticks and tater tots while we went back home and took advantage of two hours to just lay around naked, talk about stuff we couldn’t talk about with young children around, and indulge in leisurely sex. Now that our kids are older, we enjoy “youth group night” where our teens go to church on Wednesday night and we go into the “upper room” (our master bedroom) for a quiet evening together.
If you don’t have a game plan for a few quality sexual experiences in the coming weeks and months, develop one as a Christmas present to your beloved spouse.And as a Christmas present to us, share your idea so we can be inspired in our marriages as well!
Wishing you the BEST sex,