Moving Beyond “The Missionary Position”- Part 2

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“Whenever I See Your Smiling Face, I Have to Smile Myself…” (James Taylor, 1977)

Remembering back to when we were teenage girls, what was one of the first signs we looked for to discern if a guy really liked us?  His smile.  We could pass him in the hallway hundreds of times or talk to him throughout our lunch period, but until he started smiling directly at us, we really weren’t sure of his feelings. His sweet smile seemed to announce, “Hey, I think you’re great!  You make me happy!  I like being with you!”  And most likely, your smile said the same thing to him.

Your husband is basically a teenage boy trapped in a grown man’s body.  He still needs discernable signs that you like him, that you love him, and that you crave him sexually.  And what better way to remind him of those things than to simply look at him and smile frequently?

Maybe you are thinking, “But I need to have a reason to smile!”  Funny, we never needed a reason as a giddy teenage girl.  It just came naturally.  What’s happened to that smile now that we’re all grown up?  We’ve bought the lie that our happiness comes from external sources, and we wait for someone or something to paint a smile on our face rather than reach inside for reasons to smile.

But what if I told you that smiling FIRST can produce genuine happiness as a result?  It’s true! Studies indicate that our facial expressions are not as much of a reflection of our feelings, but our feelings are largely a reflection of the facial expression we wear. (i)

In other words, the more you smile, the happier you feel.  And the more you shoot him a sexy smile, the sexier you’ll feel!

How much time and energy is required to offer a smile?  Almost none.  But how far could it go in developing a sense of sexual confidence and rapport between you and your husband?  A long, long way.

Reference: 
(i) Malcolm Gladwell, Blink (New York: Little, Brown and Company, 2005), 206.

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Excerpted from The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your Husband Mind*Body*Heart*Spirit by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2008.  All Rights Reserved. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval.