To be a Sexually Confident Wife is every woman’s birthright.
To have a Sexually Confident Wife is every husband’s desire.
I wanted to bring something back for family and friends from my first mission trip to Honduras several years ago. After tasting the incredibly sweet mangoes that grew naturally in the area where we stayed, I loaded up a suitcase full of them to take back home. They made it through the security gate in Honduras, but U.S. Customs nabbed them upon my arrival back into the U.S. I didn’t know at the time that it’s illegal to bring foreign fruit into the country. I tried to put up a fight with the Customs agent, but it was no use.
It’s incredibly upsetting when someone takes something away from you that is rightfully yours, especially when we put up a fight and lose the battle. Many women know that feeling well. Some of us have had something far more precious than mangoes taken away – our sexual confidence. Perhaps a previous boyfriend stole your virginity with his pie crust promises which were easily made, easily broken. Maybe it was a relative or older acquaintance who robbed you of your dignity as he used you as a sexual rag doll. With over 30% of women experiencing some type of sexual abuse in their lifetime, it’s no wonder why so many women struggle with sexual confidence. Sadly, we often learn to associate sex with pain, not pleasure.
But sexual confidence is every woman’s birthright, and no one can take it from you without your full permission — permission which you grant day after day. Yes, there may be some horrific sexual experiences in your past, but it’s within your power to heal those wounds and reclaim that which was stolen from you. Seek the help of a counselor if necessary. Find a support group who can help you walk down the pathway toward wholeness. Invite your husband and closest friends to partner with you in your healing process. Do whatever it takes, but don’t surrender your sexual confidence without a huge fight, girlfriend! It’s your birthright as a sexual human being, and one of your husband’s deepest desires for you as well.
If sexual abuse or past promiscuity have robbed you of your sexual confidence, the entire second section of The Sexually Confident Wife (“Confronting Ghosts from the Past”) was written especially for you! Or consider attending a Women at the Well 4-day Intensive Workshop to dive DEEP into the healing process and learn more about how to blossom in your marriage bed!
Wishing you all the fulfillment you deserve,
Excerpted from The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your Husband Mind*Body*Heart*Spirit by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2008. All Rights Reserved. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval.