“Not tonight. I have a headache.” It’s the old stand-by excuse, and only she knows for sure whether she really has a headache or not. If we’ve been married very long, we’ve probably used that excuse before. But yesterday morning, I really DID have a headache. A bad one. I felt the left side of my brain would explode, especially when my husband crawled back in bed with me and started kissing on my left ear.
I winced and said, “Oh, please be careful. My head is killing me.” He snuggled up beside me and got still. I felt so much love and appreciation toward him for taking the kids to school and letting me have a little extra sleep, and I wanted to be intimate with him, but I figured I had to be out of commission. But then I thought, “I wonder if having an orgasm would HELP my headache rather than hurt it?” I proposed the theory. Greg was happy to be my lab partner. Fourteen minutes of pleasure and lots of deep breathing later, I was amazed at how much my headache had improved! So much so that when it came back much later that afternoon, I proposed another round of “orgasm therapy.”
I WANT TO KNOW — has this EVER happened to you??? If so, did you have similar results? If not, the next time you have a headache, try orgasm instead of aspirin. Then tell me how that worked for you!!!
P.S. Speaking of health issues, I have to say a BIG THANK YOU to America Online (AOL) for posting the Sexually Confident Wife “69 Questions for Self-Assessment” on their AOL Health page last Saturday night. We had over 5.7 million hits, which will hopefully translate into LOTS of books sold and sex lives strengthened! Woohoo!
Yes! This has happened to me too 🙂
Yes. It has happened to me. I sprained my ankle last Friday, on the very day we were preparing to go out of town to a conference/family getaway on Labor Day weekend. My husband hadn’t been home ten minutes when he asked with concern how my ankle was feeling, I gave him a mischievous grin and said, “You know honey, orgasms are good for pain relief”. And they were! By lifting my pelvis up with our Liberator wedge, it was easy to keep my knees and ankles up out of the way. By the time we were done, I forgot I even HAD an ankle. Much less a sprained one.
When I talk about our slogan “promoting pleasure for wives and the husbands who love them”, sometimes people assume it’s all about wild nights hanging from the chandelier. While special amazing nights and afternoons do happen, I think it’s more important to redeem almost-missed opportunities when headaches or sprained ankles could keep you from having great sex, but they don’t.
YES YES YES!!!!!about a year ago, with my husband, i learned that sex is actually a GREAT cure for a headache..Of course, after telling my husband, i was never able to use that exscuse again!
Oh yes, actually it turned into a joke. When I mentioned having a headache, after discovering sex was a great cure, it was almost a given I was expecting it. Sex overall is a great stress reduction and so it makes sense it would help…
Giggle! I’m 43, work at a stressful job and quite often come home with a headache…. but I haven’t taken an aspirin in years! Sometimes my husband is disappointed when I DON’T have a headache… but not for long!!!
I have never had an orgasm. I have tried to pleasure myself and got nothing out of it (and felt bad about it). I bought a vibrator but am terrified my kids will hear or find it. Any advice would be great. I have been married almost 20 years! If I feel my husband is trying to “help” by manual or oral stimulation, I start to feel pressure. I tell him, and it’s mostly true, I am happy with our sex life, but sounds like I am missing out!
Shannon Ethridge says
You are not alone, girlfriend. 10-15% of women have never experienced orgasm. I encourage you to check out chapter 8, “Experiencing the Big Oh!” in The Sexually Confident Wife. It gives detailed explanations of how a woman can experience both clitoral and g-spot orgasms with her husband. I pray that with time, patience, and practice, your big “Oh!” moment is right around the corner!
no! It made it worse, and my husband has said the same thing, but it is a fun experiment.