Over the past two decades, Greg and I have enjoyed seasons where we make love often. But there’s also been many seasons when there was little or no sex at all. Perhaps Greg really was interested in sex during those times, just not with me. While it’s normal for some men not to be in the mood on occasion, it’s not normal when the occasion lasts a long, long time. Even the most sexually confident wife can feel devastated by a husband who seems to have lost sexual interest in her. For example:
I read often of women not wanting to have sex with husbands, but what is a woman to do when her advances toward her husband are not returned? What of the women who want sex and their husbands withhold purposefully? How do you remain sexually confident in an unresponsive situation? This has been an issue at periods of time in my life, and I’m a tall, slender, personable, adventurous young woman with every reason to be confident in what I have to offer.
Think about it. If a man treated a woman harshly during the day, would she be eager to let him touch her that night? Not a chance. This dynamic works both ways. Sometimes a woman expects that her husband’s heart and penis should be made of steel, built to withstand the most disappointing and frustrating of relational dynamics. But he’s no robot. He’s a human being with feelings and emotions, and he needs to be somewhat affirmed in order to feel aroused.