With a visual image of another human being [through the use of pornography] introduced into the mix, the temptation can be overwhelming to disconnect from one another and focus on a completely different person – a person with whom you can never have a sexual relationship, or any other type of relationship for that matter. In fact, most spouses who view porn do so secretly, apart from their mate. And chances are, they’re not taking that sexual energy to bed with their spouse. They’re taking it into their own hands, relieving themselves of their sexual tension through masturbation, and robbing their partner of an intimate sexual experience in the process. When this happens, sexual energies are squandered in some stranger’s direction, rather than focused on your spouse. In my opinion, the power that sexual intimacy with one another can have in your marriage gets completely diluted in the process.
