I was doing some interviews in Chicago last week, and while getting ready in my hotel room I saw a segment on FOX News that shocked me (which is almost impossible to do — ask my friends). There’s actually a company that advertises, “Life is short. Have an affair.” It’s for a website where married people can seek other married people who are simply interested in having a one night stand or develop a sexual outlet outside of their marriage relationship. Sadly, there are millions of subscribers.
The anchor person asked, “Don’t you feel bad at the end of the day?” to which the interviewee replied, “We think we’re providing a much needed service. Instead of seeking out a prostitute or lying to someone about your marital status, we allow you to simply connect with other like-minded individuals in such a way that both of you get your needs met.” I thought, Gee, what a humanitarian you are (not!).
While you might think that extramarital affairs are a symptom of too much sexual confidence, I think the opposite is true. I believe affairs are an indicator that you no longer have sexual confidence at all, especially with your marriage partner.
We’ve got to keep the home fires burning to keep our (and our husband’s) sexual confidence level high – not look elsewhere. The Sexually Confident Wife will help you do just that!
What are your thoughts? Does an extramarital affair mean that a person is sexually confident, or that they lack sexual confidence? And what effect do you think an extramarital affair has on a person’s sexual confidence after the affair is over?