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As I began brainstorming to write The Sexually Confident Wife, I made long lists of the numerous obstacles and hurdles that hold women back in the bedroom. Some were mental obstacles, some were physical obstacles, and some were emotional obstacles. But our sexuality is comprised of four unique components – the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual – and with the spiritual component being the deepest one of all, I knew there was no way I could write a book about becoming a sexually confident wife without tackling some of those deep-seated spiritual obstacles that can so easily take the wind right out of a woman’s sexual sails. So I began questioning, “Is there any major religion in which sex between a husband and a wife is forbidden, or even discouraged?”
“In one sense, we are never more Godlike than in the act of sex. We make ourselves vulnerable. We risk. We give and receive in a simultaneous act. We feel a primordial delight, entering into the other in communion. Quite literally we make one flesh out of two different persons, experiencing for a brief time a unity like no other. Two independent beings open their inmost selves and experience not a loss but a gain…”1
