It doesn’t hurt anyone if I fantasize about someone other than my husband when we make love.
Just as wives have the right to be offended by our husbands’ wandering eyes, men have the right to be offended by their wives’ wandering minds. For women, orgasm is probably 10 percent physical and 90 percent mental. If your husband is trying to please you, he can forget about it if your mind is a million miles away, say on your grocery list. A woman must focus mentally on the sexual experience in order to derive ultimate pleasure from it.
He, not your husband, is the one you feel close to emotionally.
Sex between a husband and wife was meant to be the most intimate thing this side of heaven and can be even more fulfilling than any fantasy imaginable. Ironically, many of the women who tell me that they regularly think of another man while making love to their husbands also tell me that they feel guilty, empty, dissatisfied, and confused.