What is a four-letter word for a woman’s favorite foreplay activity? T-A-L-K!

 

Think about it. What affair has ever taken place without intimate words exchanged? Women often tell me, “I’ve not been unfaithful to my husband. All this man and I have done is talk.” But what is the nature of the words exchanged? Maybe he says things like:

*  “I was hoping to see your beautiful face today.”

*  “My wife and kids are out of town and it sure is lonely at my house.
*  “I had a wild dream about you last night. Waking up was a disappointment.”

*  “Does your husband appreciate what a wonderful woman you are?”

Perhaps she responds with words like:

*  “I just love being around you. You always make me feel good.”

*  “When will I see you again? Can you call me soon?”

*  “I think about you all the time. I can’t get you out of my mind.”

*  “What would your wife say if she knew we were talking like this?”

 

What would she say? What would your husband say? “It’s okay, honey. You haven’t been unfaithful yet”? I don’t think so. Spouses would feel very betrayed by such words. As a matter of fact, those words would probably hurt just as badly as any physical acts you could have committed, because they indicate that your heart is no longer fully invested in your marriage relationship. Consider this passage from the book of James:

When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire. (James 3:3-6)

 

Did you catch that last part? The tongue corrupts the “whole person.” We must stop thinking about purity and faithfulness strictly in physical terms and understand the importance of matching our words, thoughts, actions, and convictions with God’s Word. When all four of these things agree with one another and align with the Word of God, we are acting with sexual integrity. But if any one area is out of alignment with God’s Word, we have compromised our sexual integrity, regardless of how far we’ve gone physically.