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I was talking to my teenage daughter the other day, who is about to celebrate her first Valentine’s Day with a steady boyfriend.  I was asking, “What are you going to do for _________?”  (I’ll keep his name anonymous for the sake of her privacy so I don’t wind up …

Morning has broken… broken our 2-week sexual sabbatical.  Not a chosen one, but one brought about by the “stuff of earth competing for our allegience” (as the late Rich Mullens sang).  Work schedules… waiting up late for teens to come home… concerns about the direction of the economy… relational stresses robbing …

I just read an article on Fox News’ website that hurts my heart as badly as how Natalie Dylan is trying to auction off her virginity to the highest bidder (see the blog just before this one).  You can find the full article at http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,480605,00.html, but here’s the highlights… “CRITICS PUSH …

In light of my last blog about inviting your husband into your healing process when you’ve been sexually abused, I was incredibly saddened to read this article about a young woman who’s choosing to abuse herself…   Student auctions off virginity for offers of more than £2.5 million A student who is auctioning …

For years, I never told my husband that I’d been sexually abused by some of my uncles.  Why?  Because (1) I was stupid enough to think that because I didn’t let them actually have sex with me that it didn’t effect me, and (2) because I didn’t want him to view …

Making “Relationship Resolutions” Special thanks to The TODAY Show for having me back to New York last month for a “Relationship Roundtable” discussion with Kathy Lee Gifford, Hoda Kotb, Saturday Night Live comedian Finesse Mitchell, and Lesley Rotchford, editor of Cosmopolitan magazine. The segment aired this morning, but can be …

No deep thoughts on marriage… no challenges for your sex life… just the warmest of wishes for a very merry Christmas and the happiest of New Years! I’m enjoying time off with my hard-working hubby, crazy-busy 16-year old daughter, and bored-out-of-his-mind-until-school-starts-back 13-year old son.  I’ll begin blogging again January 2nd, but …

It’s been making headlines in the media a lot lately — special emphasis on how important it is for married couples to have frequent sex.  I completely agree, but is it possible to focus so much on quantity that we forget the importance of quality in our sexual relationship? I’m all about quickies …

I just returned home from New York City where we taped another segment for The Today Show (which airs January 2nd), and I’m exhausted and overwhelmed at all I have to do before the holidays!!!  SO I’m taking my own advice that I shared in my most recent Hot Tip E-newsletter …

If you are the wife of a (hopefully recovering) pornography addict, I have a heart-felt message I want to share with you that’s been brewing in me for some time. But first, I want you to pray that God would open your heart and mind in such a way that …

I heard a lady exclaim the other day, “Parents shouldn’t talk so openly with children about sex or else it will awaken their desires!” Sorry, but I couldn’t disagree more. Ask any teen, “The last time your parents tried to talk to you about sex, did it cause you …

Oops… I thought I posted this last Friday while on a wonderful romantic get-a-way with my husband, but obviously my head was in the clouds and I accidentally filed it in my “drafts” folder instead of publishing it.  Oh well, it’s never too late to be thankful, so… This seems like …

The previous blog about “Trent’s dilemma” has sparked an interesting question from yet another husband: Imagine you were at a conference and a man like Trent comes up to you with his wife and says, “I really like what you are saying, but my wife and I just have a …

One of the most interesting things is how many MEN seem to have found this website, and are ordering the book for their wives – a gesture which I hope all wives will interpret as something along the lines of, “Gee honey, I love you so much, and I want …

Every once in a while I get an email from a reader that I just HAVE to share (with their permission, of course!). Check out this testimony from Elizabeth… Dear Shannon, I had a bit of a breakthrough with my husband recently, and I know it’s thanks to your book. Will …

Every week we receive multiple emails from either men struggling with pornography, or wives struggling with their husbands’ use of it. (I know many women struggle with using pornography as well, but we’ll save that for another blog). I agree with Dr. Phil, who insists that users of …