Author and Advocate for Healthy Sexuality and Spirituality


Experiencing Intimacy With God

Only Adam and Eve experienced intimacy with God to the extent that God intended, walking and talking with Him in the beautiful garden He created for their enjoyment. But because of their disobedience and the resulting Fall of humankind, no one since the Garden of Eden has enjoyed such fellowship. We are incomplete, imperfect, and impatiently craving that which our souls simply cannot find apart from an intimate relationship with our loving God.

As the bride of Christ, we eagerly await His return so that our relationship may be perfected once again. We clamor to experience the fullness of God — to hold His hand… sit in His lap… gaze into His loving eyes… feel His warm embrace envelop us… hear His laughter and sense His good pleasure in us. While we will only experience such intimacies and ecstasies with God on the other side of heaven, we can still experience great joy in our relationship with Him on this side of heaven.

Relating to God so intimately is not a new phenomenon or strictly a charismatic movement. Actually, Judaism is full of wedding and consummation imagery. Each Friday night, Shabbat [the Sabbath] is welcomed in as a beautiful bride. The relationship between God and the Jewish people has long been described as that of lovers consummating their pledge to each other.[i] They pursue what was intended from the beginning. They attempt to perfect their love relationship with the Lord. They express their commitment to the utmost degree. They are His people, and He is their God, and they bask wholeheartedly in one another’s attentions and affections.

If you are like me, you crave this kind of relationship with your heavenly Bridegroom as well. But we must remember the principle mentioned earlier — all love affairs are carried on in private. To experience such depth, we must get alone with God, tune out all distractions, and focus on hearing His voice. This can be a challenge in our fast-paced, hurry-up, gotta-run world. Most of us feel we don’t have time to look up, let alone sit still. However, it is true that: “Power flows out of stillness, strength out of solitude. Decisions that change the course of lives come out of these quiet times.”[ii] 

[i] Rabbi Ted Falcon. Ph.D. and David Blatner,
Judaism for Dummies (New York, NY: Hungry Minds, Inc, 2001), 103.

[ii] Bill Hybels, Honest To God? (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1990), 25.


Excerpted from Completely His: Loving Jesus Without Limits by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2007. All Rights Reserved. Published by WaterBrook Press, Colorado Springs, CO 80921. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval. 


Hot Tips For Sexually Confident Wives #64

Embrace Pleasure (2 of 3)

Last time we discussed how to maximize your husband’s pleasure by stimulating his top “hot spots.” A woman’s body can seem a bit more mysterious when it comes to her hot spots, but once these places are identified, they’re really not that difficult to find or stimulate. Her primary points of pleasure are:

*  The Clitoris – about the size of an eraser on the tip of a pencil, the clitoris is merely a collection of nerves that creates a tiny pink “bump” just inside the labia (the folds of skin on the exterior of the vaginal area). The best way to discover it is simply for a woman to explore this region with her fingers in the presence of her partner, then point out the tiny section that’s most sensitive to the touch. What purpose does the clitoris serve? Interestingly enough, it exist for absolutely NO biological reason other than to provide women great pleasure through clitoral stimulation and resulting orgasm. Most women report that because this is such a highly sensitive area, they prefer a variety of movements (back and forth, side to side, and circular motions) to stimulate this hot spot rather than merely an “elevator-button-pushing” approach.

*  The G-Spot – while still a mystery to many married couples, the G-spot really does exist! It’s not just something that a German gynecologist by the name of Ernst Gräfenberg made up. It’s an erogenous zone located approximately one to three inches inside the anterior wall of the vaginal canal (toward her belly button). When stimulated for long enough (done most effectively with the pad of the middle finger), it can result in a vaginal orgasm and expulsion of a significant amount of fluid (referred to as “female ejaculation”) so be sure to have towels or a waterproof pad handy. Unlike the clitoris, the G-spot is easier discovered by a husband’s fingers rather than her own.

*  The Perineum – just as the section between a man’s penis and anus are sexually sensitive due to the vast number of nerve endings present, the tiny section between a woman’s vaginal canal and anus is usually considered a hot spot as well.

With some intentionality and imagination, both the G-spot and the clitoris can be stimulated such that a woman experiences both a G-spot orgasm and a clitoral orgasm simultaneously, sometimes referred to as a “blended orgasm” or “double orgasm.”

For more information about male anatomy, female anatomy, and especially how a woman can experience orgasm, check out chapter 8 (“Experiencing the Big ‘Oh!'”) in my book The Sexually Confident Wife (Random House, 2008)


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