Author and Advocate for Healthy Sexuality and Spirituality


The Prize of Harnessed Power

When a wife feels confident that she can avoid extramarital affairs… when she recognizes the incredible power her sexuality holds to create a supernatural bond in her marriage… when she refrains from manipulative games such as withholding sex for bad behavior, using sex to reward good behavior, playing the ‘bait and switch’ trick, or keeping score in the bedroom… then she’s harnessing her sexual power.  What’s the prize?  The ability to create that wonderfully intimate relationship you’ve dreamed of.

If a river overflows its banks, it has immense destructive power.  Homes can be flooded, families separated, and even lives lost.  But by remaining within its banks, that flowing river brings life and blessings to every village or community it serves.
Inappropriate use of sexual power can have a similar effect, emotionally and spiritually destroying homes, families, and lives.  But by harnessing your sexual power and keeping it within the appropriate boundaries, you can also bring a renewed sense of life and blessings to your marriage and family.  Rather than requiring a fulfilling relationship with your husband, you’ll naturally inspire it.  And when that happens, your heart and body may gravitate closer to your husband than ever before, giving you both a new, powerful sense of sexual confidence. 
Excerpted from The Sexually Confident Wife: Connecting with Your Husband Mind*Body*Heart*Spirit by Shannon Ethridge. Copyright 2008.  All Rights Reserved. Published by Random House Inc, New York, NY. Used by Permission. Not to be copied without Publisher’s prior written approval.