Fantasy can help us endure separation.

When I speak to military wives, I’m always asked the question, “Is it okay for me to fantasize about sex with my husband while he’s deployed?” I usually grab that woman by the shoulders, give her a playful shake, and declare, “You’d better!” Seriously, how could military spouses (both husbands and wives) cope with such a lengthy, painful, and scary separation from one another if they felt sinful entertaining sexual thoughts of one another? There’s nothing sinful about healthy sexual thoughts of your marriage partner—ever—even if they’re only gone to the grocery store for an hour! But for spouses who have to endure an extended separation, sexual fantasy can keep the home fires burning until a passionate sexual reunion is possible.