“Enchantment” with another human being is merely illusion, fantasy, wishful thinking, and misdirected projections. Disenchantment, however, is the process of embracing an empowering reality. It’s coming up to the […]
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 6
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 6
God recently gave me a crystal-clear glimpse into that face of compassion while I was speaking at a women’s retreat. As ladies from all walks of life worshiped together, the […]
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 5
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 5
The final face we need to explore is obviously the most important—that of God’s. As bizarre as it may sound, I believe that if we peel back every layer of […]
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 4
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 4
In order to consider the roots of our own thinking, we must allow ourselves to descend into the dark places, the hard places, that we (ourselves and the church) have […]
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 3
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 3
A simple way to understand archetypes is to simply imagine the faces in our fantasies as nothing more than “projection screens.” The roles that we assign these faces/screens come from […]
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 2
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 2
I was once thrown for a loop by my own scary thoughts as I began involuntarily fantasizing about a particular man who lived nearby. I’ll call him Zach. This man […]
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 1
The Faces Behind Our Fantasies – Part 1
People commonly assume that when we experience a dream, fantasy, or random thought, the mental experience is really all about the person whose face we saw, or about our relationship […]
Ten Excuses that Turn Fantasy into Painful Reality – Part 2
Ten Excuses that Turn Fantasy into Painful Reality – Part 2
6. He/She’s not my cup of tea anyway. When a coaching client describes a person as “no one they’d ever be attracted to,” I can see the end of the […]
Ten Excuses that Turn Fantasy into Painful Reality – Part 1
Ten Excuses that Turn Fantasy into Painful Reality – Part 1
As a life/relationship coach, I’ve had the privilege of working with some of the most respectable people you’d ever want to meet. These are not rapists on skid row or […]